Hi! It’s so nice to meet you! I’m Alina. I love to travel. And I like chocolate. I really enjoy shopping for clothes. I live in Bucharest.
Oh? You asked about my job? Sorry. Well, I’m a fashion blogger. So yeah, I put photos of myself on the internet. Wearing clothes – obviously wearing clothes! Ha, I’m not a porn star. Brands sometimes pay me to do it. And I write about my life and my feelings.
I know what you’re thinking now: “what a narcissist!” Hahahahaha. Please. Don’t. Judge. Me.Too.Much.
This conversation happens so often when I meet people, that my brain simply repeat the above like a rehearsed monologue of self-justification, self-depreciation and awkwardness. But when you see the look in people’s faces when you tell them what you do for a living it’s so funny.
And just sometimes it gets worse, when they misunderstand and they start with questions:
Oh so you’re a model?
And I’m like… No, no I’m not a model.
But you wanna be a model yeah?
No, no, I don’t want to be a model.
Ah ok….*awkward shuffle*
But you wanna be famous though yeah?
Oh for fuck sake! Yes maybe I wanna get Famous, but this is not the point!
After some months, I finally understand and realise that people, men in generally, are not comfortable about women getting famous. If you start saying this to one man you are dating, for sure he will be frustrated and ran away. There are so few who resist and don’t care.
Blogging is a job that didn’t really exist in the past.
Influencer is a vague and elusive term we all tag onto anyone with more than 10K Instagram followers. And with the rise of people making a living by Blogging, YouTubing, or just Instagramming, it’s an entirely new domain that people don’t know very much about.
So, of course, it’s interesting. It’s a job you can perform solely from in your pyjamas. It has a tendency to be glamorous. Thank you Instagram filters for this. It’s something not everybody knows about. Look at it this way, if someone told you they were a stripper, body farm caretaker, or dolphin trainer, you’d be full of questions to ask them because it’s not your standard desk-based job. People don’t see behind the scenes of blogging with all of the analytic tracking, self-taught photography, social media skills, hours of writing and photoshop, content research and brain-storming. They see only parties and events and hear about gifted clothes and beauty products (which we put on Instagram anyway because nobody wants to see the boring stuff).
But it can get a little weird and judgy. The sentence “I’m a blogger” is met with the same look your mum gives you when you tell her you want to join the circus. You can literally feel the people you meet at parties or on the streets trying to dissect you like a little frog in science class, attempting to work out what’s so special about you that people follow and read about your life on the Internet.
Everybody ask how you got so many followers when what they really mean is “Why you? What’s so good about you?“And I wanna be like it’s only because I have managed to dupe everyone by mastering the art of internet wizardry to make me look way more cooler and more interesting than I really am (#realtalk).
You get the social media cynics who start a character assassination calling it fake, inauthentic and narcissistic. These guys also usually think that you have no education because you don’t need a degree to set up a blog. These are the ones who scream:“well I don’t use social media as I don’t believe in it”. And the conversation takes a dark turn when they start to ask about your relationships.
But fuck them, quite frankly.
Next time you’re probed on it, 9 times out of 10 it’ll just be the curiosity, so humour them with a little information on what a blogger really does – writing in your pyjamas in bed, planning your Instagram feed, borrowing your friends designer bag for a shoot, or taking 20 photos at a glamorous event to stagger through the week because content.
And if all that fails and they’re a bit of a dick about it, just tell them you’re a model and enjoy their facial expression as they try hide their shock and disbelief.
That’s always fun. I’m doing it all the time!
And Now, I received this Snake Print Dress from Ylana Shop, who will launch their new Spring/Summer 2018 collection.